Dating man flirts
At the same time, though, people tend not to overestimate flirting, which could be socially useful. Individual differences in the communication of romantic interest: Development of the flirting styles inventory. OK, I have to chime in here because I've been told by more than one person that I'm the biggest flirt they'd ever met.
After all, the consequences of misinterpreting casual chatter for flirtation could be serious. The business of "detecting a flirt", well, that's just the thing, you can't tell for sure because the purpose of a flirt is often to be so ambiguous that clear rejection isn't possible.
You are not committing to anything, and you are maintaining a boundary of ambiguity. Because a big part of flirting is being very observant of the other person's reactions.
People who are not receptive to a flirt might not even know it happened.
If you're suspicious, just let time do its work and have fun as you learn about her. You have to have a sense of humor about it and sex in general.
As for a woman starting to flirt with you, no you do not have to be very careful because NOTHING out of your control can happen in a mere conversation. I don't really get how people think romance, eroticism, sex, fliration and all that is in any way unpleasant, or "work" as you say.
But for guys, there are a number of reasons why a woman would want to deceive you -- the main thing to look out for is that she's after money. It applies to people you might already have known for a long time, like the girl at the library desk, the drugstore, a classmate, or someone at work.
Here’s the thing, though: Most people aren’t eager to experience direct rejection, so if they want to communicate interest, they might use indirect flirting strategies, strategies that resemble other, non-flirting conversation (teasing, joking, being friendly).
Recent research offers new insights into how accurately people detect real flirting behavior (Hall, Xing, and Brooks, 2014). The importance of context during the initiation of romantic communication. (I'm a guy for reference) I have said a number of times, "Nobody flirts with me" and I am told, "you probably don't notice". I, like many people, don't expect to be flirted with and so, I don't look for it and as a result, never learned to recognize it.
If she's cute and has a good sense of humor, I'm happy to be a gentleman.
And let me tell you, more than once, a woman has bought me a drink because she enjoyed the conversation and compliments so much.
Sometimes flirting is completely obvious, but often it's more indirect and tentative.